Cop handcuffs daughter's boyfriend...

**R13** · September 28th, 2010, 05:43 PM

Originally Posted by cosmo99

Whats more embarrassing? Being 14 and getting caught having sex and the whole issue being blown over in a few months OR being 14 and getting caught having sex, getting pregnant, your 15 yr. old boyfriend dumping you, all the rumors flying around school, girls teasing you in the hall ways, and your life put on hold for a very long time....

Doesn't look like they got caught doing really anything, seems like she told them or something, because the cop interrogated the kid on how it happened. Him going and acting like some idiot abusing his power, isn't going to take back what happened and isn't going to stop her from being pregnant by some chance that she were to be. He could have came over, had a talk with the parents or sat down with the kid, but not come in uniform, handcuff the kid and threaten to bring charges...all while this goes on national news. Now which is the right/more logical thing to do? Now she probably isn't pregnant, but still has the rumors and being teased simply because of her dad. No one is saying blow it over, just don't act like this idiot did.

**1inStripes** · September 28th, 2010, 05:51 PM

Guess who's blowing it out of control. The parents of the boy and the media. Especially the media.

**R13** · September 28th, 2010, 05:56 PM

When a cop acts like this, it's going to be picked up by the local media, then the national media might pick it up and it obviously did. The faces are all blurred out anyway, the guy shouldn't have abused his power and acted like a normal person would.

**SBG** · September 28th, 2010, 06:19 PM

Originally Posted by R13

the guy shouldn't have abused his power and acted like a normal person would.

Right. He should have acted like a normal person. Most "normal" people these days would have probably gone over with a gun and shot the kid AND his parents.

The point that should be taken is it could have been a LOT worse than it was. His parents should thank him for doing his job since almost all parents these days expect their kids to be raised by the cops, the schools, etc. And the media balloons it up way more than it needs to be. And you really have no viable way to comment on this not being the father of a teenager. You aren't, are you?? And before ya jump on it I'm not either. However I'm VERY close to 2 and have watched them being raised and I at least have some insight. But I'm sure there are far many more on here as parents who can discuss this better than you or I.

**R13** · September 28th, 2010, 06:39 PM

Originally Posted by SBG

Right. He should have acted like a normal person. Most "normal" people these days would have probably gone over with a gun and shot the kid AND his parents.

The point that should be taken is it could have been a LOT worse than it was. His parents should thank him for doing his job since almost all parents these days expect their kids to be raised by the cops, the schools, etc. And the media balloons it up way more than it needs to be. And you really have no viable way to comment on this not being the father of a teenager. You aren't, are you?? And before ya jump on it I'm not either. However I'm VERY close to 2 and have watched them being raised and I at least have some insight. But I'm sure there are far many more on here as parents who can discuss this better than you or I.

I really don't know what planet you live on, because that's not what normal people do. And it's kind of ridiculous to say that this is somehow acceptable for this guy to do this.

I'm not a father, but I was a teenager and I've dealt with a lot of dads and daughters since I got into dating...not one acted acted like this, though I was scared to death of them regardless. I do know of a local police officer, good friends with him and his daughter got pregnant at 15(he knows who it was, local sports "star" and is in the kids life), he never did anything like this nor ever would.

This was the completely dumb way to go about this, officers should never be able to use their authority for personal issues like this was. MJ said it best in the thread, he should have acted like a man and not hid behind his badge, talked to the kids parents and sat down with the kid...but to do this? Parent of 10 kids, parents of no kids, this isn't acceptable and it puzzles me how anyone would think it is.

**SBG** · September 28th, 2010, 07:31 PM

It was said in jest. But I take it you aren't fully fluent in sarcasm yet. But it's understandable because you're so young. That's why I separated the 2 comments. Did it need a smiley too? LoL I'm just giving ya a hard time.

I never said it was acceptable. It's not. But what is acceptable is a father taking up for his kids/stepkids if he loves them as much as he should. This guy just let it get the better of him and went a wee overboard.

And that first part was just mocking the media for how they blow these things up and it's all you hear about until the point lots of people figure that's how almost everybody does act.

But I imagine if you ever become a dad to a daughter one day you'll think differently. You'll want to do what he did or something like I posted if you really love and care for her. But if you're a tenth as smart as you can be you'll settle down, think it through, and try not to let your emotions COMPLETELY take you over.

**R13** · September 28th, 2010, 07:51 PM

I should have picked up on that since in real life I'm as sarcastic as they come, though sarcasm is a little hard to pick up on over the internet.

I get where he is coming from as a parent, I understand as a dad he's ****ed, I understand that. It's just using his badge to do it like this, a talk with a dad would scare me, but for him to show up, handcuff you, make you admit everything and say charges are being filed would make me **** my pants - can't imagine what would be going through my head. He's just a kid, a year/few months older than his daughter, I wouldn't feel as bad for him if he was at least of age.

I can see where's he's coming from, but you don't actually do something like this. But from some of the comments, which I assumed you were saying it too, is that this is okay behavior from a cop. I don't think he should have his job, because I don't know how many times he has or will use his authority like this on personal problems.

**SBG** · September 28th, 2010, 08:41 PM

It's not acceptable to use his badge in this manner. But if this guy is an officer in good standing then I don't think it warrants losing his job. He made a mistake. And due to the sensitive nature of the problem he should be given a tad bit of leniency. He deserves to be punished in some way but not fired. See, the whole emotions of it all goes both ways. He shouldn't have let his get the better of him and emotions shouldn't be allowed to judge or determine the employment of this man. Punish him harshly and if he learns from his mistake that's fantastic. He does it again then his ?ss deserves to be canned.